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It will be titled "How to Treat a Woman" or "How to Be a Godly Example in an Ungodly World."
I'll add to these later. I just wanted to write these down for future thoughts.
#1. Treat a woman as a person, not a thing.
- A woman is not God's gift to satisfy whatever urges you have. A woman is a person; treat her as such.
#2. Do not expect a reward for doing what you should be doing in the first place.
- So you opened a door for a girl? Good! You should already be doing that. You're not being romantic, you're doing what you should have been doing. This should not warrant a reward anymore than putting your pants on correctly should. (Ladies, he is expected to do this. Do not tell him or others that his is romantic for opening the door for you. That's ridiculous.)
#3. Have a quiet time and encourage the lady to as well.
- If you don't have a quiet time, you cannot lead spiritually. If she doesn't have a quiet time, she won't understand why you are leading or what purpose God plays in a relationship. This is by far the most important aspect of a relationship.
#4. Just because you are being a good friend does not mean you are being a good boyfriend.
- Being in a relationship means being friends, but it is more than that. If your relationship is only on the upswing when you are physically involved (holding hands, kissing, sitting on lap, etc), then you have no relationship at all. You should first of all be friends. Edify one another through encouragement. Speak each others love language. Discuss spiritual themes. Help them out when in need. All of these things should be done to ALL of your friends, men, not just your girlfriend. Being a good boyfriend is about doing all of these things AND MORE. You're responsibility is to not only love her, care for her, and serve her (as you should do with all your friends), but to lead her spiritually and set an example that her husband (which might not be you) can be proud of.
#5. Just because you are dating does not make her yours.
- Do not ever tell her "I am yours." Do not let her say "I am yours" or "You are mine" because it's not true. She is not yours until you say "I do." Then you are hers and she is yours (Song of Solomon). I am sick of guys that push girls to fulfill their needs (emotional and physical) because they think they are the "one", just to break up 3 months later, leaving a scar for their future spouse to deal with. Always remember that you are with someone else's wife; treat her the same way you'd want someone to treat your future wife.
#6. Get rid of the pin up posters of bikini models in your room.
- Not only are they trashy, but posters or images like this cause you to further view the woman as a piece of flesh instead of an image of God, and you will treat them as such. Ladies, get rid of the half dressed man posters in your room. It makes men feel like they much achieve a certain status to gain approval; possibly the same pressure forced upon you, ladies, from the bikini posters. Respect your brothers as we respect you.
I'll add more later...
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| ... and wanted to write down for later musing.
Am I effectively ministering to people or to my own needs?
Am I an effective minister or an effective clique member?
Do I go out of my way to meet others' needs without expecting something in return?
Do my actions reflect that my life is actually meaningless if I do not accomplish the work that He sent me to do?
Are my actions beneficial to the body of Christ or my own body?
I'll probably post more later..
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| Am I the only one who dares to defy the entrapment of love and its forces? Will I forever be the one whose vision is not veiled by the mist of entrancement? Storge. Eros: How intricate your wax coating must be to misrepresent agape to so many! Blinded, deaf. How many lives must be scarred from your witchcraft? Agape, please be patient. Please be healing as penicillin to bacteria; Please blot out their spilled grief and give them fresh hope. Please remove the scales and allow them to eat and drink once more.
Please.
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| Wow.. So old..
So hey guys.
*crickets*
Oh. No one reads this anymore.. Just like old times. So I can say what I want with no one to read it and feel open about it.. Just like when I first got a Xanga over 2 years ago.. Awesome.
School's been great. Lots of work, as usual, but it's tolerable. I have a social life now that I don't have 18 hours. I've become more involve with Campus Ministries and that makes me a very happy camper. =D (Get it? Campus.. camper.. haha)
Had a few bumps this semester.. but God's picked me up and led me through them, as always. He's pretty cool, that God character.. =D
Well, it's 2AM and I have class in the morn.. I better scoot off to bed.. Later crickets.
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| Aaaand.. time for a new entry.
The semester is coming to a close.. Which is good news. Next semester I have 16 hours instead of 18 and NO 8:00AM classes.. which makes me very, very happy. If you don't know, I have 8:00AM classes this semester.. everyday.. It's good that I have that this semester as my first experience though so that my next one is easier on me instead of the other way around.
Final word on the sickness is a combo of an ear, throat, and sinus infection.. It's the norm for me though, so whatever. I'll be aight. Just no volleyball for a while (which is good because we're out anywho. heh)
In other news, I love my wife and driving to church on Wednesdays. There's a story in there, but it's long and the climax isn't that good. But it's funny nonetheless. Am I going to tell it? Nay. Ask her, Andy, or Jennifer about it.
Deer chile rocks.
I'd like to remind everyone that it is officially NO SHAVE DECEMBER! Please don't shave for the rest of December or at least until school dismisses. Why, you ask? Because. And shaving annoys everyone. So don't fight nature and let it grow, let it grow, let it grow. (No Shave December does not include leg hair or pit hair, but it can if you really wish. You will probably lose many a friend though, so be warned.)
I need sleep.. Until we meet again..
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